I Hate You Recession

OK so we all know that the recession is kicking our butts. What are the things that you have been doing since the recession started? Let me tell you I have done it all. I have tried online selling. I have cleaned houses. I have had garage sells. I mean give me a break you have to do anything these days to make it. My poor husband works his tail off to provide and yet it is still not enough. Luckily we only have one child. I cant even imagine the parents who have more than one child. We barely make it and we cant get any help. Oh yea don't get me started on that. We are the ones who can barely get food on the table at times. But according to the government we make too much money to get help. Are you kidding me? Come live a month in my shoes. So you can see what we are going through and what other families are going through. Never did I think I would end up living in this type of situation. But that is how it gets you. When you think you will never end up somewhere that is exactly where you end up. Sad but true. I tried that whole positive thinking. But honestly how positive can you stay when everything is going wrong.

I look in my child's eyes and it saddens me to have to tell him no. It saddens me that he is such a great kid and will do anything to make a little extra change and yet I cant even pay him an allowance because I don't have any extra money.

Then now you have to have the Internet cause that is the only way you can look for a job these days. Most places do not even want to deal with you. Then you have all the places that would have hired you in a heart beat before that will not even give you a second look now.

So tell me how has recession ruined your life?

Why do we even have voice mail?

OK why do I even have voice mail if you are not going to use it? Or if you do leave me a message it doesn't even say what you called for. I mean come on tell me what you want. So that way I know if I want to call you back. Don't make me waste my time checking my voicemail where you left me a message saying " hey it's me call me". I know it's you I have caller ID and that may be the reason why I didn't pick up in the first place. Leave me a message of what you want. I mean let's be honest if you were leaving me a message stating you need me to watch your kids. Well heck now I know I don't want to call and your call accidentally never made it to my phone. Or you want me to stop somewhere on my way home. See but that is how they get you. If it is someone close to you. Family member or so. They know they gotcha. They know you are going to call back and see what they need. I say don't fall for it. Take a stand and tell them leave me a voice mail or I wont call back. I tell you it works.

So what is your pet peeve about voicemail?

Me Or Your Friends

OK so why does it seem that no matter how long you have been with a man. No matter how old they get. You always seem second to their friends. They say no. But let's face the facts. They drop what they do when their friends call. They seem to not be able to do anything without them. Any free time they have. They make an excuse as to why they have to be with their friends. Do women not have friends? Do they not see that we need the same things as them. I don't see my friends all the time. I don't always get to do what I want! So why is it that men seem to think we are to work our full time jobs. Then come home and take care of house kids and them. Yes them. What would they do if we didn't feed them, cloth them and please them? They would be lost. Oh how about this one. Why is it men make plans to do something with their friends. Before they check with their wives? They do not make plans for someone to watch the children. Nor do they care if you had any plans. Now if the woman would want to go out. She has to check with his plans first. WHY!!!!. She would also be responsible for getting someone to watch the children. But guess what that means he can go out now too. But why cant he just stay home. I mean the children will be sleeping anyway. It is not like you have to do much. Men seem to think they have to prove they are still a real man. By making sure the boys come first. Well guess what I was a woman before I was your wife and a mom. I have the same needs as you.

So tell me. Do you have the battle of me or your friends in your home?

I'm Back

It has been a while since I have been on here. I kind of got lost in thinking there was no need for this blog, But after much thought and dealing with daily life I see clearly now. I see that there is a need for a place where we can vent. Where we can give and ask for advice. A place where we are not shamed to say "This is not what I signed up for". So please make sure to come back and visit and see all the topics we will be discussing.

Why do we cheat?

That is the big question? Why do we or our spouses cheat? Can we really recover after someone has been unfaithful in the marriage? Am I not good enough? Did I do something wrong to make them stray? All these questions come about when we feel insecure about our partner being unfaithful.

But why do we always blame ourselves? Aren't we the ones that tried everything in our power to make it work? We didn't stray. We didn't go out late nights looking for trouble. When did we start lying to each other? When did we start thinking it was okay to take our vows in vain?

It seems these days some of us take marriage as if it is a game.
Why do we not respect marriage?

I have my answers to these questions. But what are yours?

Why Men Hide their soft side.

OK can someone please tell me why it is so hard for men to just be dads. I mean why is there this macho-ness that goes on. Why is it that if there is a son and a dad the dad feels it is his duty to always be tough on him.

From what I have seen from my own experience is that the man feels that being tough shows that he is a real man. Well we are dealing with a child who has feelings and being manly as you so call put it doesn't always work. Why do you feel that he is a little you? He is not. He is his own person and should be treated as so.

Do you know why men have a tendency to shut their feelings even with their own child?
Have you had this happen in your life?

Things they didn't tell you about marriage!

OK now I know that there are others out there. That are wondering the same thing. Why did I get married? Now yes I love my husband with all my heart but yet at times. Don't we all ask what was I thinking. You know those times when they do something that literally makes your jaw drop. Now I have a bone to pick with our elders who may have said it is a lot of work to hold a marriage together. I understand that completely. I think something you work hard at is so much more worth the rewards that you later receive. But come on. There are little hints that they could have left us. To tell us about those annoying things we have to deal with for the rest of our lives. Or how your love life will change with time. Even though you are still deeply in love.
Then you have the children right? Well when they are babies okay you try to sneak in adult time any chance you can get. But then they get to that age where HELLO now they know what you are doing. So you are hoping they go to bed early. Never happens. You want them to go to grandma's house but she is ill. You do activities to tire them out. But heck they have energy for days. So tell me when exactly is it that we feel like we are teens again? Well I think I have figured it out. When they grow up and move out.

Now for the ladies. What happened to that sweet romantic man you fell in love with? When he was trying to sweep you off your feet. When you he was trying to play in your yard so to speak. After they have used every trick up their sleeve. After they have you say I DO. Well HELLO it slowly starts to fade. You know the man you fell in love with is still in there. But where did he go? Where did the love notes go? Where did the flowers go? Or how about all those wild and crazy nights?

Now I know it isn't just me. There are others out there. I want to hear from you. Tell me when did it all change for you. Now I am not leaving the men out of this. But since I am a woman I can only tell what happens from a females point of view.

So when was the last time he gave you special treatment? When did it all stop? Do you ask yourself sometimes. How did I get here? What happened to the us we used to be?

Now don't get me wrong cause I know we all love our spouses. At least most of the time like I tell my husband. But we need a way to get it all off of our chest. Plus I know I am not perfect neither is he. But if we would keep lines of communication open the way him and I do. I think a lot of us would feel a lot better. Or is it me? That I have to just TELL IT LIKE IT IS!