Why do we cheat?

That is the big question? Why do we or our spouses cheat? Can we really recover after someone has been unfaithful in the marriage? Am I not good enough? Did I do something wrong to make them stray? All these questions come about when we feel insecure about our partner being unfaithful.

But why do we always blame ourselves? Aren't we the ones that tried everything in our power to make it work? We didn't stray. We didn't go out late nights looking for trouble. When did we start lying to each other? When did we start thinking it was okay to take our vows in vain?

It seems these days some of us take marriage as if it is a game.
Why do we not respect marriage?

I have my answers to these questions. But what are yours?

Why Men Hide their soft side.

OK can someone please tell me why it is so hard for men to just be dads. I mean why is there this macho-ness that goes on. Why is it that if there is a son and a dad the dad feels it is his duty to always be tough on him.

From what I have seen from my own experience is that the man feels that being tough shows that he is a real man. Well we are dealing with a child who has feelings and being manly as you so call put it doesn't always work. Why do you feel that he is a little you? He is not. He is his own person and should be treated as so.

Do you know why men have a tendency to shut their feelings even with their own child?
Have you had this happen in your life?

Things they didn't tell you about marriage!

OK now I know that there are others out there. That are wondering the same thing. Why did I get married? Now yes I love my husband with all my heart but yet at times. Don't we all ask what was I thinking. You know those times when they do something that literally makes your jaw drop. Now I have a bone to pick with our elders who may have said it is a lot of work to hold a marriage together. I understand that completely. I think something you work hard at is so much more worth the rewards that you later receive. But come on. There are little hints that they could have left us. To tell us about those annoying things we have to deal with for the rest of our lives. Or how your love life will change with time. Even though you are still deeply in love.
Then you have the children right? Well when they are babies okay you try to sneak in adult time any chance you can get. But then they get to that age where HELLO now they know what you are doing. So you are hoping they go to bed early. Never happens. You want them to go to grandma's house but she is ill. You do activities to tire them out. But heck they have energy for days. So tell me when exactly is it that we feel like we are teens again? Well I think I have figured it out. When they grow up and move out.

Now for the ladies. What happened to that sweet romantic man you fell in love with? When he was trying to sweep you off your feet. When you he was trying to play in your yard so to speak. After they have used every trick up their sleeve. After they have you say I DO. Well HELLO it slowly starts to fade. You know the man you fell in love with is still in there. But where did he go? Where did the love notes go? Where did the flowers go? Or how about all those wild and crazy nights?

Now I know it isn't just me. There are others out there. I want to hear from you. Tell me when did it all change for you. Now I am not leaving the men out of this. But since I am a woman I can only tell what happens from a females point of view.

So when was the last time he gave you special treatment? When did it all stop? Do you ask yourself sometimes. How did I get here? What happened to the us we used to be?

Now don't get me wrong cause I know we all love our spouses. At least most of the time like I tell my husband. But we need a way to get it all off of our chest. Plus I know I am not perfect neither is he. But if we would keep lines of communication open the way him and I do. I think a lot of us would feel a lot better. Or is it me? That I have to just TELL IT LIKE IT IS!